Anal Play for Straight Men: 3 Cis Guys Open Up About Prostate Pleasure, Pegging & Stigma

Ever wondered if straight guys mess around with anal play? Maybe they hide it in public, but many have secretly explored it for years. If you’re Googling “straight men anal play” and landed here, you’re in the right spot

As a team deeply invested in the world of anal pleasure — from exploring it ourselves to developing toys and guides — we’ve noticed something: most people know shockingly little about the prostate (aka the P spot). Which means they have no idea how to make it happy.

Most guys know nothing about the prostate (a.k.a. the P-spot), a walnut-sized gland between the bladder and  cock, just 2-3 inches inside the asshole. Stimulating it can trigger mind-blowing P-Spot Orgasm—often more intense than ejaculatory ones. Plus, the prostate is prone to health issues, making regular check-ups crucial. Yet a common myth persists: only gay men enjoy prostate play, since it’s often associated with anal sex or fingering. Spoiler: that’s total BS.

Why? Because it often involves penetration — and that makes some dudes think it’s not “manly.” The reality couldn’t be more different.

We talked to three cisgender straight men who opened up about their journeys with anal play — from curious fingers to full-on P-Spot Orgasm — and why this isn’t a “gay-only” kind of fun. These are their stories.

Ryan:

My girlfriend actually brought up prostate massage. She’d floated the idea a few times, and one night while we were in bed, she gently started teasing around my anal with her finger — slowly lowering my guard. A few weeks later, during sex, she went further. First her finger, then a small prostate vibrator. The whole thing felt new, filthy, thrilling. But what turned me on the most was how open and giving she was — like she genuinely wanted me to feel good. The pleasure was intense, almost overwhelming.

Brandon:

I was around 12 when I found a porn mag with an article about women loving anal sex. I thought, “Well, I’ve got an asshole too…” So I started experimenting. One time, I used some Vaseline to help slide a couple fingers in, and every time I hit my p spot, it felt incredible. Then I spotted this rolling pin with rounded ends and, on impulse, I lubed it up and slowly worked it in. It went deeper than my fingers ever could. The moment it entered, I was rock hard. That’s when I knew this was just the beginning of my anal adventures.

Ethan:

When I was about 13, I was already jerking off and experimenting. One time, my fingers brushed my butthole — and the sensation was wild. Eventually I grabbed a condom-covered banana, smeared it with Vaseline, and slid it in. (Pro tip from BEISAR: Please don’t use bananas, toothbrushes, or random objects. Only insert body-safe anal toys designed for this purpose, always with proper lube.)

Ryan:

Sex with a partner is about mutual exploration. Pegging, honestly, can be way more fun than regular sex. Sure, her penetrating me felt good — but when we both got involved, switching positions and roles, it turned into this deeply satisfying, collaborative experience.

Brandon:

At a flea market, I met this discreet, sweet middle-aged woman selling anal toys. I picked up a blue, suction-cup dildo — 9 inches long, 2 inches wide, with veins — and a big bottle of lube. I was so excited. It felt like my adult rite of passage. I lubed everything up and slowly lowered myself onto it, bit by bit, until the whole thing was in. Then I started bouncing. The pleasure was absolutely unreal.

Ethan:

In college, my girlfriend had a prostate vibrator about the size of my creature dick. One night in the shower, I got on all fours and she slid it in. I was young and too afraid to admit how much I enjoyed it. She hated it, and I even apologized, saying, “Sorry for making you go through that.” Total lie. I loved it. I wanted her to do it again right away.

Ryan：

Growing up, being straight meant you had to be the penetrator, the “virile” one. Any anal stuff was labeled “gay,” even though I’m not. Some older dudes would rather risk prostate cancer than get an 8-second finger check because “they ain’t gay.”

Brandon:

I’m glad I started young. But I get why some men hold back. Society links anal pleasure to being “less of a man,” which is just toxic nonsense.

Ethan:

I experimented with anal sex in high school, but it wasn’t until my twenties that I could actually ask a partner to explore it with me. Understanding that sexual acts ≠ sexual orientation was a big relief. The fact that more straight men are now opening up about this? That’s real gender progress.

Ryan:

A lot of men resist anal play because they fear losing their dominant role. But when a woman uses a strap-on on you, it’s not about submission — it’s an intimate power exchange between lovers. Just like some people love oral, others love anal sex. It’s simply another pathway to pleasure.

Brandon:

The worst assumption is “you must be secretly gay if you like anal sex.” I’ve always been into women, and that hasn’t stopped me from enjoying every inch of my body.

Ethan:

Ten years ago, anal play was considered “only for gay men.” Now, more straight guys are talking about it openly. When we can say, “I’m straight, and I enjoy anal stimulation,” we’re finally respecting sexual diversity.

Ryan:

The mental freedom that came with anal pleasure blew me away. When physical sensation overlaps with a sense of breaking gender rules — that’s transformative.

Brandon:

I love giving and receiving equally. Sometimes I’ll just focus on anal play, without touching my dick. Other times I’ll wear a vibrating butt plug while having sex with my wife, and the double stimulation is next-level.

Ethan:

Being on the receiving end made me a better lover. I understood how important lube, patience, and tenderness are — things I never fully appreciated before.

Ryan:

I’ve tried most of what I wanted, but finding the right toy is still like opening a mystery box. You can’t try before you buy, so reviews and materials matter. (Shameless plug: Our BEISAR makes getting started ridiculously easy.)

Brandon:

I’m into textured anal toys and deep-stretch sensations. I’ve even worn vibrating butt plug in public — that secret thrill hits different. I’m curious to try more advanced stuff in the future.

Ethan:

My wife and I have talked about double penetration, but she’s not quite ready. For now, I simulate it with anal toys. The fun is in exploring those limits together.

Ryan:

With a family history of prostate cancer, I take health seriously — regular checkups, good diet, and exercise.

Brandon:

I’ve started taking prostate-support supplements. Pleasure and health go hand in hand.

Ethan:

I don’t know if regular anal play directly protects the prostate, but the body awareness it brings helps me catch anything unusual. Knowing your body is the ultimate form of self-care.